Pastor,
are you exhausted and lonely...
- from doing everything yourself?
- from trying to meet all the unspoken expectations?
- from pouring your heart into people who leave without a word?
- because no one seems to care? Not even God?
There is hope, help, and support!
If you’re ready to talk, schedule a shepherd-to-shepherd conversation here.
Are you struggling to sort out what matters most amid endless unspoken expectations?
- You’re not alone — recent Barna research shows that 4 in 10 pastors are at high risk of burnout.
- But you can find clarity, support, and balance in ministry. Keep reading to discover how.
The Hidden Weight of Unspoken Expectations
You entered ministry with a deep sense of calling — to shepherd, to preach, to serve. But somewhere along the way, that calling got buried under a mountain of unspoken expectations. Every phone call, every meeting, every decision feels like someone is measuring you against a standard you can’t see and can never quite meet. No wonder you’re drained, confused, and maybe even questioning your call.
Ministry Can Be Life-Giving Again
Imagine waking up with clarity about what really matters each day. Imagine a church family that receives your leadership with joy, creating space for you to serve authentically and confidently, while pitching in to lighten your load. Picture yourself finding balance, reclaiming joy, and leading with renewed confidence. Ministry can be life-giving again — not just for your congregation, but for you, too.
The truth is, most pastors were never taught how to navigate the flood of hidden expectations. Seminaries trained you to preach, to counsel, to lead — but not to carry the crushing weight of everyone’s hopes, fears, and demands. When you try to meet them all, you end up exhausted and adrift, unsure of what’s truly important.
You Don’t Have to Carry This Alone
You don’t have to figure it out by yourself. The first step is to step back, get perspective, and uncover the difference between what people expect and what God is truly calling you to do. That clarity will give you the freedom to serve authentically and the peace you’ve been longing for.
I’m Rev. Betty Bolerjack, CMC, Clergy Support Coach.
I understand what it feels like to serve under the crushing weight of unspoken expectations. For years in pastoral ministry, I poured myself out while silently wondering why it felt so heavy and why I always seemed to be falling short.
In retirement, I saw other pastors struggling with those issues and more. I began to sense God calling me to help them by becoming a clergy support coach.
Now, I walk alongside pastors who are carrying more than they were ever meant to bear, helping them find clarity in their calling, discover real support, and reclaim balance and peace in life and ministry.
If you’re weary from the demands of ministry, spoken and unspoken, now is the time to reach out for support.
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